Fun, Fabulous Fringe

I love fringe. Its pretty much an obsession of mine. I have always gravitated toward it. In the mall, I see it and I must touch. I must let it run over the side on my hand cascading down, each little twisted string elegant and fun.

I have made it my recent mission to find a way to use fringe in my everyday life. And this morning I finally finished the design for a new clutch “The Remy”. This simple design, paired with the edgy fabric and the fun-ness of fringe has me completely giddy!

All of my bags are designed around “Simplicity & Function”. The key to a great bag, to me, is that you can use it to go to work, the store, and  than straight out that evening. But I don’t want a boring bag, I want a statement piece. A bag that shows my fun side, without over doing it. We are all, after all, each unique. And why should our bag be any different.

The approx. size of “The Remy” is about 10 inches, by about 6 inches (give or take a tad). Fairly standard for a clutch. But what isn’t standard are the prints, the wrist strap that attaches right to the zipper pull, and of course the fringe itself. My only challenge here was deciding if I wanted the fringe to trim the sides of the bag or the bottom. I love both looks. I also found myself stuck between a rock and a hard place on what type of fringe to use, as well  as the length. I love the delicate little nylon twists on things such as flapper dressers, But in all practicality those little twists tend to pull out, and this does not do well for the life of a bag after all, who wants a raggedy looking bag?! Not me that’s for sure. So I bought a 6 inch faux suede fringe I think it has the best look with the boldness of the fabric prints. At 6 inch’s you get go flow and movement without getting into everything and knotting up. And,  I am going to go with bottom trimming on these (but will offer side trim on request). I just like the look of the fringe hanging and moving on the bottom of the bag as it hangs from the wrist. Its a bold yet simple touch, and as I said earlier I like simple.

The customizations for this bag are stacking up as the day has gone on, I’ve written down dozens of ideas. For Example: Not everyone wants a bold edgy print. The best part of my job and having my own hand made boutique is being able to make a one of a kind piece for someone. I get requests for them all the time. Whether you’re a My Little Pony kinda girl and want that print with purple fringe or you want pink floral and a matching fringe, or maybe you want a lace covered beauty for your wedding day. I can so do that.

This bag is a must have.

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By now you’re asking where’s the pictures of it, where’s the finished bag? Well I’m holding out on posting any pictures for now, keeping it slightly hidden till the listings are up and a few options are done. You can “Like & Follow” my Facebook page to get the first peek.

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But the first person to see this bag and take pictures and get them out in public view will be….My friend Anna! She is getting one of the very first bags I finished so follow her blog…

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And you can read a real “Girl on the Go” review, about this bag.

40 is Fine

“40 is fine when you look 29.”

40th birthday

Ill be turning the big 4 0 this week. This Sunday to be exact. June 5th. A Sunday my favorite day of the week.

But unlike a TV show, there will be no gathering of friends and family to celebrate me. No surprise cake and singing, no tears of joy at the overwhelming show of affection for me.

My own husband wont even remember. I’m sure, or maybe he will but he sure as hell wont do a thing to show me. He hasn’t in years, a lacking small gesture that cuts me deep every year. I mean really is a small cake so hard to get for your wife?

And friends, well I have none. Everyone, I’ve ever let into my life has used and abused this thing called friendship. And I have locked out all of them and vowed not to bring anyone new it to replace them. People just disappoint and hurt you and I’ve finally reached a point in my life where I don’t and wont allow it. Now, none of the people I do call “Friend” are so close they’d think to pop in with a cake. And the 2 people I do have that I call friends that might do this work hard all day on Sundays to support themselves, and their children and couldn’t even if they wanted to.

Family, well again none that would do a thing to celebrate me, betting my own mother doesn’t even remember its her first born child’s 40th birthday. No, she’ll probably roll out of bed at 1 pm and make sure see feeds her animals on Farmville though. My husbands family well they might remember but not liking or knowing me enough to know this 1 year Id rather not share my birthday with anyone else (my husband and mother in-laws b-days are days after mine and we always get jammed together) and definitely not in a hot way over crowded house where half the people there don’t even like me. No Id rather just stay home and fold laundry and dwell in my own self pity.

I don’t think its wrong to want this day, this one year to be just mine, to have my favorite cake, to be surprised and celebrated.

But hell like I said my life is not a tv show, No cards in the mail, no balloons or cake just like every other year. Other than the half hearted, Facebook happy birthdays from the hand full of people I’m actually friends with on Facebook, only remembering because Facebook reminded them. I don’t expect anything else.

It makes me sad. Not because no one remembered or because no one did anything but more because I wanted it.

In the end, its not important. I don’t really get over it but I do get past it. In the end 40 is just a number, its just another year I made it through.

In the end 40 is just fine, after all I really do only look 29.

A real housewife in New Jersey

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I hate the term housewife. I hate it even more so since these beyond ridiculous shows about women acting like high school children have come out.

 I am so much more than a “housewife”. I am keeper of all things. Money to lost shoes. I am plumber and IT specialist. I am mom and maid. Taxi driver and Escort. If you can think up anything a women could possibly be, yeah I am or have played that role at one point or another.

But you’re never going to find camera following me or me basking in 15 minutes of fame at any point, because the truth is a “Real Housewife”, well her life sucks, its not anything anyone would want to watch. I mean really, would you want to see me blogging in my spare time, washing laundry and cursing at my 6 year old after he just poured every bottle of everything he could find in my master bathroom down the drain?

Or maybe you want to see me trying (“Trying”) to run my online Etsy shop, and carve out something for myself and my future.

Even my marriage. Purely perfect compared to the dysfunction of what is on TV. We don’t even fight about the money we don’t have. 17 years and not one fight.

To be honest. I think the only thing TV worthy in my life would be me tripping on the treadmill. And though funny as it is, and it is funny. This too is maybe only worth 2 minutes of TV fame.

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So there is it, the quick and simple of Me. A Housewife in New Jersey.

Living just another day in paradise.

ps: Is spring break over yet? can my kids go back to school!!??

Regards!

An Interview

Question: How do you describe JerseyGypsy?

Answer: JerseyGypsy is a one stop gift shop. A handmade emporium of quality goods at a good price. A place to get custom things you wont find in the mall.

Question: What sets you apart from other gift shops?

Answer: Unlike many other shops, I am not a one hit wonder. For example someone that only makes bags, has mostly only bags or someone that only makes candles has mostly only candles. I not only offer everything from bags, and candles, to skirts and jewelry. I make it all myself, this makes me stand out from the rest and also keeps costs low as I’m not buying things and than marking them up.

Question: The term “Gypsy” is believed to be an offensive term to the Romany community. How do you feel about this?

Answer: We are decades away from that. Todays generation uses this word to describe a free spirited person, a wanderer. I myself am not of the Romany people today but I have roots there and I grew up very poor, going to craft shows with my mother to sell her “goods”. We collected cans to put gas in the car. I have been cast out and bullied for this type of lifestyle. I have struggled, so to be honest I understand more of what it is to be a Gypsy than anyone that tells me “Gypsy” is a “derogatory word.

Question: Where do you hope to be with your business in the next few years?

Answer: I really hope to have a brick and mortar store. My Esty shop does well, I have a following on Twitter, Instagram, and even Facebook fans. I am building a website, I hope to have launched in a few months, and I am expanding into new things weekly. Most recently I’ve begun candle favors and after the 1st day of listing I have an order for a bride in California.

Question: What is your biggest challenge?

Answer: I’m am a very creative and driven person. I am very organized. I research and plan things out. Really my only challenge right now is funding. I started this out of pocket and still use sales to fund myself. So I’ve yet to see any real profit that I can bank away. If I had the funds to buy all the things I needed at once I would be able to list more and turn a faster bigger profit.

Question: What is the biggest lesson you’ve learned so far?

Answer: (*sigh) In my pursuit to have more reach to the public and get my name and products out there. I allowed myself to be taken advantage of buy 4 different businesses/business people. By agreeing on “consignment” with them.  I was, to put it bluntly robbed blind. I estimate between them all I have lost over $5000.00. The lesson I learned was “Trust your gut. Speak up for yourself, and create a deal that works for you.” I’m not stupid I knew with one of them that I was getting the short end of the stick but the opportunity to reach more people was greater to me and so I allowed it,  until it became all to clear I was making less than $1 on my items and they were making $10. With the other 2 they just never paid me, flat out stole. And with 4th deal (again I should have listened to my gut it screamed not to do it) I was again flat out robbed.

Question: What is one thing you would like everyone to know?

Answer: I am a business women. I work 7 days a week. I work 60 plus hours a week. This is my job. What I do deserves the same amount of respect as anyone else that works.

 

 

 

 

But Really I love Them All

So my last blog was about making the candles, and my hopes for them.

So today, I thought Id tell you about what’s become my favorite candle of the season, on this very 1st day of Spring.

(PS: its nearly freezing and we may see snow today)

Lemon Meringue! To me its screams spring, its bright and cheerful,  its a warm, sweet, yet slightly tangy and clean scent all at once. It is so moving I ran to the store to buy a pie! And just between you and I, I’m pretty sure Ill eat the whole thing myself!

I knew these would be top of my favorite chart as I poured them…

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One of the few candles I have chosen to add color to. I mean how could you not, this color is amazing. If it were not for the hang tag you would fully believe me if I told you it was real Lemon Meringue pie filling!

The scent filled my studio as it set up, and I could hardly wait the, at least 2 weeks I like a candle to rest, to lite it. And lite it (when the time was right for maximum scent throw) I did!

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Even after I blew this out at the end of the day the scent hung in the air.

I can not wait to share these with everyone, I just know itll be a best seller.

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Regards!

January 1st A Whole New Year

I have a “Love Hate” relationship with January.

Ill start with the hate. I hate the Un-Christmasing I have to do. Not the work of it but the emptiness it leaves behind. The house feels so empty and almost un-cheerful for a week or so afterwards.

I hate that January, for me , here in Jersey, rolls out that a long, cold, dead and dreary winter lies ahead. Nearly six months until the warmth of the sun will warm my skin.

Now for the Love of it. Okay, honestly only like of it.

I like that there is a feeling of hopefulness at the new year. That I can say to myself “this year…(insert whatever dream or goals here)”. That the full blank calendar calls out to be filled in.

I like that January is a time for me to organize (I LOVE to organize) and plan things, for my life and in my home. Most people spring clean, not me I do it now. I clean up and out with the old. I reassess things like friendships and dump people that bring me down, to the full point of burning bridges so they may never be crossed again. I take January as a time to gift onto myself what I need to make it another year.

Now I am very content with my life in many ways, 75% of it lies on the side of “no need to change anything here, husband, kids, home…” But there is still that 25% left for me, and I have a hope to see dreams realized, and goals met. For example the hope and dream I have for my business. Not only to create more and reach farther but what I set out in print, and blogged about only a few months ago.

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So here’s to January, may she be a great new start for all of us!

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Unfriended

I have never had a lot of Facebook friends, never needed to nor wanted to.

And as another year comes to an end I decided to clean house in that department. I went from 54 to 29 Facebook friends, even unfriending my so called bff (she hasn’t noticed or simply doesn’t care, I haven’t heard from her since Halloween). And that right there is my whole point.

I don’t want to be friends with anyone that wont notice I’m gone. And I do not expect anyone to notice right away, no one really has. One person though was so upset they pretty much unfriended me in real life because of it. Making what I did out to be a shitty thing to do to them. When in fact it had nothing to do with them and everything to do with me.

You see for the last 6 months I noticed I was the only one holding up both sides of all but two of my friendships, its like I had an open door, a room full of people but I was invisible! I decided to close the door after shoving everyone out.

Facebook isn’t what makes us friends.

A friend is someone that answers a text, or message or the rare phone call Someone that shows up to your invite on time. Doesn’t blow you off. Or even, as in the case of the two women I now call my only friends, not allowing me to cancel on them simply because no one else is coming.

This was my New Years Resolution for 2016, but I think its more of a gift to myself.

Only allow people into your life that will notice if you were gone.

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Regards!