A real housewife in New Jersey

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I hate the term housewife. I hate it even more so since these beyond ridiculous shows about women acting like high school children have come out.

 I am so much more than a “housewife”. I am keeper of all things. Money to lost shoes. I am plumber and IT specialist. I am mom and maid. Taxi driver and Escort. If you can think up anything a women could possibly be, yeah I am or have played that role at one point or another.

But you’re never going to find camera following me or me basking in 15 minutes of fame at any point, because the truth is a “Real Housewife”, well her life sucks, its not anything anyone would want to watch. I mean really, would you want to see me blogging in my spare time, washing laundry and cursing at my 6 year old after he just poured every bottle of everything he could find in my master bathroom down the drain?

Or maybe you want to see me trying (“Trying”) to run my online Etsy shop, and carve out something for myself and my future.

Even my marriage. Purely perfect compared to the dysfunction of what is on TV. We don’t even fight about the money we don’t have. 17 years and not one fight.

To be honest. I think the only thing TV worthy in my life would be me tripping on the treadmill. And though funny as it is, and it is funny. This too is maybe only worth 2 minutes of TV fame.

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So there is it, the quick and simple of Me. A Housewife in New Jersey.

Living just another day in paradise.

ps: Is spring break over yet? can my kids go back to school!!??

Regards!

An Interview

Question: How do you describe JerseyGypsy?

Answer: JerseyGypsy is a one stop gift shop. A handmade emporium of quality goods at a good price. A place to get custom things you wont find in the mall.

Question: What sets you apart from other gift shops?

Answer: Unlike many other shops, I am not a one hit wonder. For example someone that only makes bags, has mostly only bags or someone that only makes candles has mostly only candles. I not only offer everything from bags, and candles, to skirts and jewelry. I make it all myself, this makes me stand out from the rest and also keeps costs low as I’m not buying things and than marking them up.

Question: The term “Gypsy” is believed to be an offensive term to the Romany community. How do you feel about this?

Answer: We are decades away from that. Todays generation uses this word to describe a free spirited person, a wanderer. I myself am not of the Romany people today but I have roots there and I grew up very poor, going to craft shows with my mother to sell her “goods”. We collected cans to put gas in the car. I have been cast out and bullied for this type of lifestyle. I have struggled, so to be honest I understand more of what it is to be a Gypsy than anyone that tells me “Gypsy” is a “derogatory word.

Question: Where do you hope to be with your business in the next few years?

Answer: I really hope to have a brick and mortar store. My Esty shop does well, I have a following on Twitter, Instagram, and even Facebook fans. I am building a website, I hope to have launched in a few months, and I am expanding into new things weekly. Most recently I’ve begun candle favors and after the 1st day of listing I have an order for a bride in California.

Question: What is your biggest challenge?

Answer: I’m am a very creative and driven person. I am very organized. I research and plan things out. Really my only challenge right now is funding. I started this out of pocket and still use sales to fund myself. So I’ve yet to see any real profit that I can bank away. If I had the funds to buy all the things I needed at once I would be able to list more and turn a faster bigger profit.

Question: What is the biggest lesson you’ve learned so far?

Answer: (*sigh) In my pursuit to have more reach to the public and get my name and products out there. I allowed myself to be taken advantage of buy 4 different businesses/business people. By agreeing on “consignment” with them.  I was, to put it bluntly robbed blind. I estimate between them all I have lost over $5000.00. The lesson I learned was “Trust your gut. Speak up for yourself, and create a deal that works for you.” I’m not stupid I knew with one of them that I was getting the short end of the stick but the opportunity to reach more people was greater to me and so I allowed it,  until it became all to clear I was making less than $1 on my items and they were making $10. With the other 2 they just never paid me, flat out stole. And with 4th deal (again I should have listened to my gut it screamed not to do it) I was again flat out robbed.

Question: What is one thing you would like everyone to know?

Answer: I am a business women. I work 7 days a week. I work 60 plus hours a week. This is my job. What I do deserves the same amount of respect as anyone else that works.

 

 

 

 

But Really I love Them All

So my last blog was about making the candles, and my hopes for them.

So today, I thought Id tell you about what’s become my favorite candle of the season, on this very 1st day of Spring.

(PS: its nearly freezing and we may see snow today)

Lemon Meringue! To me its screams spring, its bright and cheerful,  its a warm, sweet, yet slightly tangy and clean scent all at once. It is so moving I ran to the store to buy a pie! And just between you and I, I’m pretty sure Ill eat the whole thing myself!

I knew these would be top of my favorite chart as I poured them…

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One of the few candles I have chosen to add color to. I mean how could you not, this color is amazing. If it were not for the hang tag you would fully believe me if I told you it was real Lemon Meringue pie filling!

The scent filled my studio as it set up, and I could hardly wait the, at least 2 weeks I like a candle to rest, to lite it. And lite it (when the time was right for maximum scent throw) I did!

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Even after I blew this out at the end of the day the scent hung in the air.

I can not wait to share these with everyone, I just know itll be a best seller.

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https://www.facebook.com/jerseygypsypeddler/

https://www.etsy.com/shop/JerseyGypsyEtsyShop?ref=hdr_shop_menu

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Regards!

Springing into something new

I have always had a love for candles. Who doesn’t?

And I have, for some time now, wanted to offer them in my Etsy store. I had hopes last year when I began to work with a candle maker and sell in her shop in Smithville that I could finally expand to carry them. But as things sometimes do it didn’t work out.

But, now…. Now, I have taken a workshop and researched and read and watched and learned all I can to begin this venture on my own. I’m giddy with excitement as the first few I’ve done came out flawlessly. Friends and family bought up nearly all I had in my first round.

( I have, of course, made dozens of candles in mason jars as well)

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50 pounds of soy wax at my doorstep (I do believe the UPS guy fully dislikes me now),

along with the 8oz tins, and cotton wicks I’ve choose to use (shipping with these seems like the best 1st step).

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I hope to reach and begin to work with brides and create these as favors for their weddings, bridesmaids for showers, and so to be mommies baby showers. I have packages outlined on my Facebook page already as I have had several messages about candles as favors and will be getting samples and package prices listed on Etsy asap. These are truly the perfect thing every bit of it is customizable from the color and scent to label and saying on it. Such a fun process to work with someone and create something that is just them.

The possibility is endless with these and I just love the work, birthdays, and anniversaries, teacher gifts, and Mother days, house warming, or just a quik lil thank you to that someone who is always there for you candles are always a perfect choice.

But even if you just want a great candle for your home or need a great gift at a great price, we can create a label just for you and any scent (just about) you can think of we can do as well as color.

https://www.etsy.com/shop/JerseyGypsyEtsyShop?ref=hdr_shop_menu

https://www.facebook.com/jerseygypsypeddler/

Regards!